by JoyofSub » September 10th, 2013, 12:09 pm
[quote="NorCalKid":b5f9766/\[url=(https?:\/\/[^\s\[]+):$uid\](.*?)\[\/url:$uid\]/i][quote="jacktag":b5f9766/\[url=(https?:\/\/[^\s\[]+):$uid\](.*?)\[\/url:$uid\]/i][quote="JoyofSub":b5f9766/\[url=(https?:\/\/[^\s\[]+):$uid\](.*?)\[\/url:$uid\]/i][quote="jacktag":b5f9766/\[url=(https?:\/\/[^\s\[]+):$uid\](.*?)\[\/url:$uid\]/i]I had sex with a guy this afternoon. I can't believe it.[/quote:b5f9766/\[url=(https?:\/\/[^\s\[]+):$uid\](.*?)\[\/url:$uid\]/i]
This sounds so wonderful, but you have always been so amazingly taciturn with us. Could you elaborate a little: How did it happen? What happened? More importantly, how do you feel about it?[/quote:b5f9766/\[url=(https?:\/\/[^\s\[]+):$uid\](.*?)\[\/url:$uid\]/i]
I'm really shook up about it. A gay co-worker/friend was at my apartment having beers on the balcony. We've known each other for a year, but maybe he caught me looking at him oddly today. Anyway, when we were back inside on the couch he started moving in closer, and then closer. When I didn't move away he must have been emboldened because he just went for it.
I feel sore. It hurt. And I'm embarrassed. I don't know what to tell my gf.[/quote:b5f9766/\[url=(https?:\/\/[^\s\[]+):$uid\](.*?)\[\/url:$uid\]/i]
I 1/\[url=(https?:\/\/[^\s\[]+):$uid\](.*?)\[\/url:$uid\]/i/\[url=(https?:\/\/[^\s\[]+):$uid\](.*?)\[\/url:$uid\]/i% disagree with those who are saying don't tell your girlfriend anything yet. It doesn't matter the gender -- you just cheated on her. And you are listening on a file that is really only encouraging you to cheat on her more. Stop listening to the file or let her go, but it is incredibly disrespectful of her emotions and wellbeing to be having sex with others while still in the relationship, no matter how erotic. Hypnosis is hot, changing is hot, but this is a real person you are fucking over right now. Make the decision of which direction, but it is insanely inappropriate to still be in this relationship and be engaging in this behavior. If you want to start having sex with men, leave her and let her find somebody else.[/quote:b5f9766/\[url=(https?:\/\/[^\s\[]+):$uid\](.*?)\[\/url:$uid\]/i]
Why do you assume this relationship is based on exclusive, mutual fidelity? Their emotions and commitments are not in our purview. We know of no oath, vow or promise that exist between them concerning these matters. For all we know, it could be an open and casual relationship. Perhaps, no clear bonds and boundaries yet exist.
Jacktag is relatively new to this file. We have no idea of the depth or frequency of his exposure to CFG. Apparently, however, it has been inspirational enough for him to experiment with his sexuality. Our understanding of that event is that it left him "shook up about it...sore...hurt...embarrassed".
This is hardly an ecstatic confirmation. The intonation is negative and resounds of remorse. It was at this juncture and understanding that we felt it would be injudicious and premature to confess this solitary indiscretion that could scuttle their relationship and potentially cause much unnecessary pain. To advocate anything else would be monstrous and cruel.
However, since then, we have discovered that Jacktag "liked it a lot. It just hurt." So we have since advised how to negate the pain and enhance the pleasure of gay sex. Furthermore, we have encouraged him in expanding his gay experiences. This is what we do. We who have converted support and strongly advocate gay conversion in all who are interested. Everyone involved realizes this means girlfriends must be relinquished. It's just inappropriate for us to determine when and how this severance should take place.
Our thread swells with the tales of men who have left women behind as they found greater happiness in being gay. Each has handled it as they saw-fit, and unless addressed, it is not our matter or concern.