by rugbyjockca » August 28th, 2013, 3:35 pm
Like you, rigsby, I believe that jocks come in all shapes and sizes. The further I move along my own transformation, the more important it is for me to find a jock self that works for me, and have decided to encourage any other jocks to find the jockness that suits -them-. Playing on a rugby team helped me to learn what a "real" jock is, which is at base just a dude who plays some kind of sport. On my rugby team were bruisers and jerks, but also professionals, artists, and whatnot. Aggressive guys and quiet guys, leaders and followers, assholes and really nice and friendly dudes. Everyone is an individual at the end of the day, even those of us who want to be roboticized or completely brainwashed will experience and process those experiences in our own unique way.
With being dumb....honestly,. I sometimes think that there's a bit of prejudice hidden under some of the anti-dumbing down posts I've seen. It's like there's an assumption that being smarter is automatically better, and that people are giving up something really valuable when they pursue being dumbed down. I find this suspicious, because for one thing it's REALLY difficult to find a good definition of intelligence. A good score on an IQ test shows aptitude in some sets of skills, but IQ tests tend to be reliable only for people of certain cultures and backgrounds. What does it mean to be smart versus being dumb?
Also, part of the thrill for me in the transformation is being changed against my will, so there's always gonna be some tension between what I want, what I think I want, and what turns me on.
[quote]I've started becoming a lot more selfish and more judgmental, too. I mean, fuck, it was SO EASY for me to drop weight and put on a little muscle. When I hear excuses about why people can't get in shape I just feel like they're lazy and don't want to put in the little bit of effort that's required to get fit and stay fit. They'd rather wallow in self-pity and depression and eat another bucket of KFC. I was there! I know what it's like to be fat and unhappy about it. But I decided to change that, and you can too, mofo.[/quote]
I'm the same way a bit. But I try to remind myself how many times I heard advice from "the other side" and how little of it I was really ready to listen to. Getting in shape was a decision that had to come from inside me, and no one else would ever be able to convince me to change until I was ready. So as I start teaching other people to get in shape, I want to keep in mind that patience IS a virtue, and that everyone has their own keys to uinlock their potential. I can't FORCE anyone to change, and I can never know what they have to overcome. I had a major drinking problem that I had to work through, for example. So long as someone IS trying, I want to be encouraging with them, regardless of what set backs they have.