nappywetter wrote:I agree with wohermiston. I have tried with True Control to get the idea across that real control is actually allowing yourself to wet - that it is not only permitted and proper but exactly what you are wearing a nappy for and what the nappy is waiting for. I have found it helps considerably because you are not overcoming control but using the idea that you are in control simply by relaxing so that you feel no need to pee. It is odd but now if I am thinking about wetting, even when wearing a nappy, it is still difficult but if I switch off my mind to that topic and think about something else entirely, I do find myself wetting when my bladder is reasonably full without the normal signals or feeling of lack of control or having to overcome a real block. Indeed I am not conscious of a block and have been waking wet reasonably often without being conscious if having woken and wetted deliberately as I have always done up to now. (Well, since I was a child with a bed wetting problem which, then, I would have given anything to stop but then started to want back! Human beings are just perverse perhaps.)
I can agree totally with what Nappywetter is stating here and it is good advice. Also, his last sentence in paranthesis really is quite true. I bedwet all the way til age 14 and absolutely hated it then. It was no fun waking up morning after morning in a fully pee soaked Wet Bed. And then the secrecy and shame that dominated this "problem." At that age, so wanted to outgrow this naggingly embarrassing, and extremely humiliating adolescent act.
So why years later, is there this strong NEED to be returned to Bedwetting and essentially made obedient to it and the Wet Beds it now has me producing once again?
I can't answer that question but do know that as the re-training occurs and a habit is redeveloped through much repetition, the time will soon enough come that I will be counted as part of the 1 to 2% of Adults who are Bedwetters.
Of course, its not so bad as it once was, as an adult I now get to control the diapers/nappies and rubber pants, something I had no control over as a boy. They have also become more comfortable, which in and of itself is a great encouragement to continuing on towards the path of fulltime, helpless Bedwetter.