by Alien4420 » August 15th, 2014, 6:54 pm
[quote:3/\[url=(https?:\/\/[^\s\[]+):$uid\](.*?)\[\/url:$uid\]/ie8d7ec]Just out of curiosity, how did you get the humiliation to fade when there are so many suggestions in CFG about your not deserving women, but only men?
For me, I was able to semi-consciously turn that idea on its head by telling myself something like, "Of course I don't deserve some mediocre woman who'll demand all my time: I deserve lots of hot, sexy, men to have fun with! Because I'm a deserving guy!" It helped tremendously in getting past my issues with this suggestion.[/quote:3/\[url=(https?:\/\/[^\s\[]+):$uid\](.*?)\[\/url:$uid\]/ie8d7ec]
Really, I don't know, because I tried so many things! I think the essence of it was that the humiliation wasn't really from the file, it was from my own internalized homophobia, and I used a number of things against it -- Positive Gay Male, short files I wrote for myself, Forced Gay. And then the miraculous Accepting Your Desire, Changes, and Yourself, which took care of the last residue.